Book Review by: Sarah S. Kreutziger, PhD, LCSW, ACSW
Associate Professor, Emeritus
Ms. Tauke, a clinical social worker, has
written an easy to read, informative book that focuses on turning
individuals' loveless experiences into cherished lives by applying
eight positive time-tested habits. She illustrates each of these
transforming habits in different chapters with case studies drawn
from her family practice, from history, and from Scripture. In a
summary chapter, she uses her personal story to illustrate points
made throughout the book.
Ms. Tauke's use of systems' theory
analysis to explain intergenerational conflicts and resolutions in
family dynamics is not new; nor is her use of Bowenian family
practice as a tool for changing family pathology. What makes her
book different from many others in this category is the confluence
of traditional family therapy with religious writings and practice.
Ms. Tauke wants more for her readers than liberation from negative,
life destroying traits; she wants them to experience healing through
a "vibrant, authentic, God-driven, metabolized faith" (p.11).
Starting with the premise that
individuals are "wired for warmth," she encourages her readers to
find the heartwarming experiences and the "heartwarmers" or
nurturing persons in their lives to counteract the "soul murderers"
of previous history. These heartwarmers are caretakers on the
journey leading to inner healing. Further redemption comes from
revising family roles through exploring and lancing
intergenerational wounds, grieving these wounds, forgiving others,
and celebrating lessons and rewards from these experiences. In this
process comes liberation from family tyranny, reforming healthy
relationships one to one, establishing good boundaries, and tying
everything to the power and connection that comes from religious
faith. Throughout her work, Ms. Tauke offers specific ways to move
through these steps with helpful strategies, illustrations, and
spiritual encouragement. An appendix offers test questions (and
answers) from challenges common to families needing transformation.
Sins of the Family
seemed at times like wandering through a fascinating rural
pathway with guidelines popping up here and there rather than
driving down a paved, discernable road with clearly marked signs;
nevertheless, by journey's end, I had gotten where I needed to go.
Whatever small deficiencies there may be in scholarly integration of
the material are more than compensated for by Ms. Tauke's genuine
love for her clients, her generous spirit, her practical advice
gleaned from years of family practice, and her vibrant faith-based
spirituality. Overcoming the Sins of the Family is full of
helpful information about meeting the pain of the past and
transforming it into abundant living for the future for both
clinicians or individuals working on their own families.
Sarah S. Kreutziger, PhD, LCSW, ACSW
Associate Professor, Emeritus
Interested Readers can visit the book's website at:
http://www.sinsofthefamily.org and purchase the book through
Amazon.com by clicking here.